Why do I call it The Future?
Because if we compare online dating with the old system of evening balls or social gatherings, online dating is much better.
If you where in one of these big gatherings with lot of men and women looking for suitable partners, after you find the person with whom you seem to strike an immediate rapport, you can start talking to this person for hours and hours.
You may talk about your likes and dislikes until it comes the time when you leave promising to continue the conversation a couple of days after.
You can keep repeating this routine until you finally decide that this is THE person that you where looking for and with whom you would like to spend the rest of your life with.
After a couple of meetings you start holding hands and kissing each other, you go out to different places, you introduce that person to your family and friends, and spend intimate time together, until it comes the moment when each of you want to start living together as a couple.
Yes, I know that it sounds as a fairy tale, but why couldn’t it be true? Why couldn’t it be your story of love?
With online dating you must follow exactly the same steps, you will talk and talk to know likes and dislike, then you will meet off line and keep on building your story of love.
But online dating offers you as many opportunities to talk with your might be partners as you like, you don’t need to wait for balls and social gatherings, you can meet your might be partner every day in the most absolute privacy.
You can chat for hours day after day, and start using the web cam whenever you want, and all this without arousing the attention of others. All that you need is the same that you are using now: a computer with access to the Internet.
And plus giving you the opportunity to chat day after day with whom you like, you can do it from the comfort of your own house, and this is way thousands of people find that online dating is THE BEST!
HOW TO START
Don’t rush in..
You are going to enter into an unfamiliar territory so you need to plan what you are going to do before you do it, you need to have caution.
The first thing that you need is to be sure about yourself and what are you looking for. You can write anything that you want in a chat room, but you don’t need to do what you don’t like (it doesn’t matter if others do it). Be you!
You will find all kinds of people in a chat room, many of them have only dirty ideas, but you don’t need to be like them to be more acceptable. Be authentic, be yourself and you will get the right kind of response.
There are also lots of nice people out there, and it’s you who must distinguish the dirty from the nice. Do onto others what you want them to do to you and you’ll do well.
This is a game without rules, you can create your own rules and change them whenever you like. And the ones that read what you write will be always judging you, they will be trying to figure how you are, because they know as little about you as you know about them. So don’t give a wrong image, approach them as you would like them to approach you.
Don’t worry if you don’t find the right people the first day, you have all the time of your life and there are thousands and thousands of nice people looking for nice people.
You are not supposed to put yourself on sale, you don’t need to say things like “I’m available”. Remember the poker game, or any other cards game that you know: you are not supposed to show your cards to others before the right time comes.
The best is to just enter into the chat room and start chatting, say nothing about your intentions of dating.
In a chat room you are only another one, you aren’t special, and no one is going to stare at you like the most eligible person, because they have no idea of how you are, and what you are there for. So don’t be obvious, just start chatting and enjoy the conversation.
Learn to be as patient as a fisher, just wait and see what comes into your hands.
Written by Dr. Roberto A. Bonomi
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